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Your Mom Body Image

pamper queen — Sun, 12 Jun 2011 18:06:47 +0000

One thing which really changes from having children is – our bodies. Also, your body image changes with having children. We go into motherhood with such positive views and don’t really think about some of the more complex issues which come with motherhood.

Some women will do everything under the sun to gain back their ‘before children body’. Some will go such great lengths to have surgery to just return to the body they once new. Others will choose to accept the changes and let it be. Being a busy mom, you don’t have the time focus on yourself as much. So often what would of bother you in the past doesn’t faze you, as it once might.

Which type of mom are you? Are you going to the gym regularly working on changing you body back, to it’s former self? Or are you just accepting the changes? Or are you a combination of the two? Some of us try for a while to make changes. Once it gets hard fitting into your schedule to get to the gym, some of us stop going. If it’s hard to make the changes happen in the gym, do you give up the fight?

We all go thought the process as mothers, women with several child go through the process several times. It’s all about you. Your own personal thoughts, feelings and opinions and what you choose to do with your life, truly reflect in your body. Nothing is more personal than body image. We either love or hate the state our body is in. We have natural views of our own bodies as women. Then we also have media pressure of the unnatural sort being forced and bombarded upon us. In our society we’re constantly sent image of what’s expected from us as women. So complex an issue no wonder our society is so confused, resulting with some taking drastic measures to change themselves?

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Pampering to Reduce Stress

pamper queen — Mon, 04 Apr 2011 22:43:35 +0000

In many ways our lives as mother so different than our husbands or significant partners. As moms, we don’t get days off from being moms. We truly don’t have”down time” day to day and the time to pamper ourselves. We’ll it’s truly hard to come by extra time. To take the time to pamper ourselves occasionally, but it’s truly necessary. Our health and well being is just too important to ignore, so many of us are very stressed and don’t take actions to combat the stress properly.

With being a mother and primary care taker for your family, there is no vacation time, sick days or paid leave. So when we have a illness happen or if we have just an off day, the whole family can be effected. So what can we do to help our own health to continue to be the best mothers? One thing we can do is just to try and reduce our own stress. We all have stress, it may be at different levels. The source of our stress my come from different sources, but it does exist. Stress has a physiological effect on our bodies. Many illnesses have been directly linked to be stress related.

Stress has been linked to:
1) Cancer
2) Diabetes
3) Breakdown in the immune system
4) Alcohol and Substance Abuse
5) Cardiovascular Disease

So in what way can we reduce our stress? You can reduce your stress by –

* Read up on the source of your stress. For example – If you have business problems seek out books and read up on it. Seek out a business counseling service, if the problem continues.

* Gain control of your situation. We can change our lives for the better by changing it up.

* Take regular vacations. Even if you can’t take a full vacation, go away for a full weekend. It could make a huge difference in your stress.

* Exercise regularly. We often don’t exercise enough while stressed, it truly can help your body and mind.

* Use daily affirmations. Affirmations posted around your home help – “I am stronger than anything I face” or “I am at peace, calm within and strong”

* Try meditation. Meditation has an amazing effect on the body.

* Talk it out with a therapist. Whatever is causing your stress, may be something which may last for a while. A therapist may help you to put your stess in perspective.

* Sleep more. Get enough sleep every night.

* Talk it out. Talk to your friends about your stress. They may be able to help you with it or how you feel about it.

* Seek out spiritual help. Contact your religious group in your area for advice, if you feel you need to talk it out.

* Eat healthier. You’ll feel better and be able to cope with your stress better.

* Use aromatherapy. The scent of many different types of aromas, can reduce your stress and help you sooth your nerves.

* Try Herbal teas. Herbal teas are a great natural way to reduce your stress

* Go for a Massage. Massage can reduce your stress by volumes.

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Children – Eating Habits Through Example

pamper queen — Thu, 25 Nov 2010 16:47:31 +0000

As a mom, I often wonder if what I’m teaching my children is enough. Do we truly know enough about healthy eating habits ourselves, to effectively teach it? Do you feel you are teaching your children to have the best habits with food? What are we really teaching them? How do we teach them to have a very healthy relationship with food? How do we teach them to have health food habits?

I know we all try to do our best as parents, but much of what our children learn, is through example. Much of our own relationship with food is automatic and subconscious to the point we never think about it. So I do feel, this is an important topic to really reflect on. Their whole life is effected by what they learn as children and these views on food will effect them as adults too.

Many women have issues in their relationship with food. Do you yourself feel you have a healthy relationship with food? As a parent, you are their main teacher in life, even on eating habits too. Our children are always watching and learning from us. What are your children learning from you? I wonder what are my children are learning from me? Are they learning the right or wrong things from me? We all have some bad food habits here and there. It may be simply too much salt, too much sugar or over using the ketchup.

In some cases, it may be a more serious issue with food. Eating disorders in women are not unheard of, even with mothers. Some of us, we just have just bad food habits under stress. Others it’s a unhealthy lifestyle which has developed over time. Some of us don’t even realize it., that we even have any bad habits, until the wake up call comes. I know many of us are emotional eaters. Many books have been written on the cause of obesity. Most young healthy people with obesity, it’s caused by emotional eating and lack of exercise. It seems we all can become emotional eaters at times, if we have the right set of events to trigger it. Some of have learned to overeat as a cultural learned way of living. I know in my own home growing up, food was a huge focus of our home. There is help out there and you can end the cycle. If you need to get help, there are many great groups which exist to help you.

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Empowering Moms to Believe in Themselves

pamper queen — Wed, 27 Oct 2010 17:13:05 +0000

Empowerment refers to increasing the spiritual, political, social, or economic strength of individuals and communities. Empowerment involves developing confidence in their own capacities Can you say your an empowered woman? Are you a woman who has vision and drive? The hardest part for some of us is staying empowered. Do you feel as if you have always stayed at the same level of ambition? Does it change based on the other factors in your life. Empowerment for some comes and goes, with our own ups and downs in our lives. Some of us have periods in which we are truly empowered, accomplishing greatest in all of our endeavors. Of whatever reason we ease up on the drive and falter some in our own ambition. What advice can you offer to others to not loose their vision and stay on the path to success?

My advice would be to have clearly written goals. Clearly written goals will allow you to have some give and take in your life, but allow you return to your goals at a later date. We really can’t control all of the unforeseen events of being a wife, mother, sister and daughter. All the emergencies and events which take a driven woman way from her goals.

You as a woman have great abilities, you just need to believe in yourself as much as your family, friends and children do. We all have areas which we excel in. Sometimes as females, we focus on all the I cant’s, I wont’s and I should of goals. We need to stay on the positive path of I can, I will, I should with our goals. I always wonder what is the difference between women, why are some so successful regardless of their circumstance from which they came. What is the difference? Why do some from very humble beginnings end up on success tracks and others don’t? I do believe it is how you view yourself, as I can or I can’t, in our own vision of self. Excuses no more, empower yourself to change!

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One Hour of Pampering – Me Time!

pamper queen — Wed, 15 Sep 2010 15:22:42 +0000

How does an hour of pampering time sound? A great start or end your day! Moms have a right to have ME TIME!

We are the most selfless ladies! We make the sandwiches, pack the snacks, change the diapers and run the errands. Often we are in the car all day. We don’t eat properly or slow down even for a moment!

We all need more relaxation in our lives! Our inboxes are full, our lives are chaotic at times with all we do. Most of us are far too over scheduled and don’t even realize it, till something happens, a wake up call.

Self love, from time to time is good for the soul! Sit and relax for an hour. An hour is not that much time to take out of your day.
Gather up your facial mask, a little time, and enjoy the hour. The much needed indulgence is long over due. Calm time is needed to reflect, every now and then. We all can benefit from a good foot soak and warm robe. Relaxation is a good thing!

Food for thought : No one ever died from taking too good care of themselves! Many ladies have died from not taking good enough care of themselves.

Tip: A favorite robe can be tossed in the dryer for a few minutes to make the experience a little more indulgent. Enjoy!

The ribbon is for all the great women who have battled breast cancer. My life has been touched by the disease and maybe yours. I think we all love someone or know or someone who has had it.

Take care ladies! Thinking of you!

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Uber Mom..I’m Not One..it’s OK

pamper queen — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 22:15:34 +0000

The uber mom is the ultimate mom. Women such as Kimora Lee Simons and Victoria Beckham are perfect examples of uber moms. The moms who have it all going on and at all times. Everything is just perfect in their lives. We all know some don’t we.

We may strive to be one, but will never be one. We all know uber moms. The ones who just seem so perfect in everything they say and do. Everything an uber mom seems to touch works out well and goes perfectly. Everything in their lives just seems to always go right for them and we are a bit jealous. We are secretly longing to be so perfect ourselves in our own lives. Where I live we have many uber moms around.

To tell an uber mom, it is easy they’re the ones with the great designer clothes and perfectly behaved children. If that wasn’t enough to drive you crazy the perfectly fit bodies, great hair, perfect white teeth and great vehicles to drive around in, just may send you over the edge. Life is really beautiful for some people, but not for all of us.

I have had my share of experience with running into uber moms, everywhere I go there seem to be a few. I am not an uber mom by any means, it shows. I really don’t care to be one.

I try hard only on the things, which really matter in the long run. I like being the real me at all times, love me or hate me. I have days when I’m pretty put together, but don’t beat myself up when I’m not. It’s perfectly OK, just to be you! Let others take or leave, the real you.

I don’t think many of the uber moms I know are very happy people. I’m pretty happy, if I do say. My priorities are very different than theirs, I have different interests and it’s just fine by me. I like not even trying to be so perfect all the time and it’s OK, perfectly OK.

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Enjoy your Summer – Make it Special

pamper queen — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 20:24:04 +0000

Summer is a wonderful time to spend extra time with your family bonding and enjoying new experiences. Try mixing it up with some new activities, so you’ll have fresh new experiences to share. We moms mostly feel the same about having the kids home for the summer. One one hand we love having extra time to enjoy the children, but it’s often much more work with having them home.

Please try and relax. Try to enjoy the experience of having them home. Make this year special over all the other years. They will not be at home forever and it would be nice to some day remember the great summers you shared with your kids.

Don’t sweat the small stuff. It all can be cleaned up and put back in place once the kids are back on track in the fall. They’re only children once.

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Hard Moments of Being a Parent – Zen it!

pamper queen — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 22:05:31 +0000

Every have those times when you wish you were anywhere but in the moment? Your child has done something very bad and you really want to freak out. We have all had them. It may happen when your incredibly embarrassed by your child’s behavior in public. It may happen when you get called into school for something your child did at school. We have all had a moments when it has been incredibly hard to be a parent.

I have been trying to really put things in perspective, before overreacting. Zen my parenting style if you would The brain doesn’t process things properly at first. Your first reaction is an emotional one. In hard moments your brain can’t process things in an unemotional way. Your natural reaction is an emotional one. Practice some mindfulness in your parenting, you and your child will be happier. Slow down and think before you respond too harshly. Words can forever hurt a child.

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Lowering your Standards to Happiness

pamper queen — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 17:41:08 +0000

So how has your life has changed by becoming a mother? I hope your answer is not that you have given up your sanity, happiness and wellness.

Do you still try to do all you did before children? Are you a mom who kills yourself, not being willing to give into the kids mess at all? I know many moms who never let go at all. Are you one?

How have your priorities changed? Have you started taking things off your “to do list” yet? Sometimes you need to completely let go and it’s great. Take some time off from your schedule! Your own mental health and wellness need you to lower your standards, believe it or not!

You can change your thinking and let go! You’ll be much happier if you do! You will not die if you eat a later than 6 PM, skipped a few days of laundry and take some time off for yourself!

Some of us view the glass half empty and some view it half full? How do you view your life now as a mom?

By becoming a mother your life has certainly changed. I know my life is entirely different. Different doesn’t have to be bad you just need to lighten up and enjoy the difference.

Enjoy your life and relax! How can you lower your standards to happiness?

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Stress – How We Differ from Across the Pond

pamper queen — Fri, 14 May 2010 01:21:37 +0000

European countries have it right on the life-work balance. We all want it in America, but none of us or too few of us have it. So many studies have been done on happiness and stress.

European countries are at the top, for places to live for happiness, why? The countries in Europe take long vacations, have shorter work weeks, have longer maternity leaves, and all have something in common – happier, healthier people.

I have been thinking more and more about healthy living as of late. I wanted to share some thoughts. I have been thinking about the mind body connection and health. Did you know your stress can kill you, if you let it! I want to some day dance at my childrens’ weddings and my grand childrens’, if God is willing. I’m sure you do too.

The more I think, the more I realize, we are really mess up with our views. Our view of work, relaxation and life in this county is very distorted. The way we want our lives to be, our view how it should be and what we are truly living are exact opposites. We have very distorted views on how life should be in this country. We have it wrong in this country, really, really wrong. We are a “live in the moment” country of people, we think just about the here and now, not down the road. Ask yourself down the road will I be healthy? What can I do today to improve the odds?

In our culture we work, work, work – so we can – buy, buy, buy. So you work more and harder to have a nicer house, drive fancier cars, better schools for your children, better quality health care, better food on the table, and take some fancier vacations. Well it’s all fun and great, but have you ever thought about what all the working is doing to your health. What good is all of it if you die young from hurting your health, by being too stressed.

In European cultures they are a little like us, but the big difference is the vacation time or some call it holiday time over there.

I have friends who are from Europe and their whole approach to living, is more natural and thought out than ours. We are a fast food and rushed country in everything we do. Now I know this is just based on a handful of friends watching them and reading some studies, but I really do like the more natural approach to living.

My European friends will ride their bike to get a few things at the store. I fly in my car there and back.

My European friends have herb gardens and fresh produce. They have taken the time to grown themselves. Mine are dried or shoved in a can or frozen with lovely freezer burn.

My European friends really are much happier than us Americans. I really do think they know more, about how to be happy. So where along the way we have lost this natural living way of being and living?

So how did we as a country get this way and what can we do to change it? Food for thought.

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